3. Contain Your Hostility in Front of the Children

Parental Fighting Adversely Affects Them

by Michael Heath

Everyone has seen parents in a full argument while the young children stand with them looking saddened, confused, and even ashamed. Parents who act out this way in front of the kids, whether at home or in public, are selfish. They are more concerned with expressing their anger and resentment than considering the destructive effects that such conflict has on children both young and older.

There are Civil Ways to Resolve a Dispute

A spat here and there around the kids will have no lasting effect and is just a part of life. Arguing that contains insults, threats, or intimidation is another story. Parents should make it a point never to fight like that, especially in front of the children. This may seem impossible in a problematic marriage. In truth, it is possible to put the children’s welfare first and choose to deal with issues through counseling or in a place that is more private.

Kids Don’t Do Well Around Conflict

A Journal of Psychology study that followed 200 families over ten years found that kids who were exposed to their parents’ frequent arguing experienced anxiety, depression, and behavioral issues later in life. Researchers have discovered that children living in high-conflict households are more likely to vape, smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, and/or take drugs than those in low-conflict homes. All children not only want but expect to live in a normal, secure home. Life is never perfect. Parents can always make it better for their children by providing love instead of war.

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